Help Women Feel Safe

This rings soooo true. The keys in the hand, having my phone either ready to ring someone at one button press or just having someone on call, walking in the middle of the road so if someone jumps out at me I'll have some sort of reaction time. It is awful being a female doing or going anywhere in the dark...my hubby couldn't understand why I hated this time of year til I explained all this to him.
 
Legz said:
This rings soooo true. The keys in the hand, having my phone either ready to ring someone at one button press or just having someone on call, walking in the middle of the road so if someone jumps out at me I'll have some sort of reaction time. It is awful being a female doing or going anywhere in the dark...my hubby couldn't understand why I hated this time of year til I explained all this to him.
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Pains me that women feel so threatened doing day to day things, it makes me fear for my daughter and what world she will grow up in.
 
Legz said:
This rings soooo true. The keys in the hand, having my phone either ready to ring someone at one button press or just having someone on call, walking in the middle of the road so if someone jumps out at me I'll have some sort of reaction time. It is awful being a female doing or going anywhere in the dark...my hubby couldn't understand why I hated this time of year til I explained all this to him.
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As a dad of two girls, married I never let any of them walk about on a night. I also hate this time of year as it limits the things they feel safe doing, their lives change completely when the dark nights come. Sad.
I’m all for a male curfew.
 
My daughter used to walk back to her accommodation when at new bucks uni in high Wycombe… it wasn’t far and it was all well lit… her boyfriend (now hubby) would always try to walk with her but on the odd time he couldn’t she’d ring me or her mam to talk to as she walked…
the amount of times she had ar5e holes shouting obscenities at her or approaching her to chat her up was unbelievable…
I’ve always been very aware when I find my self walking behind women or girls, I speed up or cross over just to avoid intimidating them…but I’ve been laughed at by guys for doing this in the past…

were not all mysoginistic or perverts but we do all need to make women feel safer because of a minority of sick individuals…

it saddens me to think women could feel petrified just because I end up walking behind them 😔

im not for a male curfew though…
 
NoloBoro said:
As a dad of two girls, married I never let any of them walk about on a night. I also hate this time of year as it limits the things they feel safe doing, their lives change completely when the dark nights come. Sad.
I’m all for a male curfew.
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Male curfew!!!! REALLY???
 
A curfew is going too far and would be counter productive. Would cause resentment and quite possibly exacerbate the problem. Not sure how you could even enforce it. If we can't, as a supposedly advanced society in 2022, tackle an issue like this without resorting to locking up half the population then we really are in trouble.

A per the article education is key. Also wouldn't object to some sort of women only zones in parks or something like that.
 
NoloBoro said:
As a dad of two girls, married I never let any of them walk about on a night. I also hate this time of year as it limits the things they feel safe doing, their lives change completely when the dark nights come. Sad.
I’m all for a male curfew.
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Male curfew 😵‍💫 evening games are going to be pretty sparse then i guess
 
xxlshirts_fit_all said:
My daughter used to walk back to her accommodation when at new bucks uni in high Wycombe… it wasn’t far and it was all well lit… her boyfriend (now hubby) would always try to walk with her but on the odd time he couldn’t she’d ring me or her mam to talk to as she walked…
the amount of times she had ar5e holes shouting obscenities at her or approaching her to chat her up was unbelievable…
I’ve always been very aware when I find my self walking behind women or girls, I speed up or cross over just to avoid intimidating them…but I’ve been laughed at by guys for doing this in the past…

were not all mysoginistic or perverts but we do all need to make women feel safer because of a minority of sick individuals…

it saddens me to think women could feel petrified just because I end up walking behind them 😔

im not for a male curfew though…
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Dead right, I was in London with work a couple of years back and left Waterloo Station, turned left and headed to my hotel (I'd stayed there before so knew the route). You leave a big well lit main road and walk down a darker mews type street. I noticed a woman same side of the street ahead of me kept glancing over her shoulder, so I crossed the road and speeded up so that she had me in view. She turned right heading to the hotel and I carried on walking away from the hotel (only a couple of minutes), knowing she'd feel less threatened.
Terrible that women have to have their wits about them but us blokes can help, if only a bit.
 
When at Cambridge Uni our daughter was heavily involved in the Student Union and always out till at least midnight on events, we worried about her - my wife more than me to be fair, I'd given her a personal attack alarm and a flash alarm and told her to make sure she had them both in her hands when walking back to her digs. The good thing was that probably 50% of the walk from the union to her place was non-public access and there are cameras everywhere.

Still she mentioned our concerns one night at the union and the chaps were adamant that from that night on one of them would see her to the gate of the digs where the bursar could see her and ensure she got back to her room safely. When they had the leaving do I made sure they all got a couple of drinks on us - forever grateful to them for providing that support, knowing they had her welfare at heart allowed us to be more at ease with her being away.

As others have said - it is tragic that women feel so vulnerable and stressed when are simply trying to get home.
 
Male curfews??? Chaperones??? No....no.....no!!!! Men (not all) need to be educated. Us women should be allowed to walk about feeling as perfectly safe and free as men do....you don't hear of womens curfews or men needing a Chaperone do you.
 
What would a male curfew look like? It would be against human rights and highly discriminatory for one, I can’t see it happening. Education is the way I believe.
 
Fat_Dragon said:
Thing is lots of men don't feel safe walking the streets at night either.
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I don’t want to belittle anything said above about womens safety but when I came up for the cup games last year I didn’t feel particularly safe walking around Middlesbrough at night on my own.
 
I get what you're saying lads I do....and I don't want to belittle your feelings either but it's completely different for women in a way you wouldn't understand.....I mean now we even need to ask an off duty copper his number and check in at his station if they stop us.....we can't even trust a copper!!!
 
People keep saying ‘education’ can anyone explain what that would look like?
Surely it’s beyond educating people, it must be obvious that harassing anyone while they’re out and about is wrong?
Enforcement is the only way, more uniformed police, better street lighting, cheaper public transport
 
Legz said:
I get what you're saying lads I do....and I don't want to belittle your feelings either but it's completely different for women in a way you wouldn't understand.....I mean now we even need to ask an off duty copper his number and check in at his station if they stop us.....we can't even trust a copper!!!
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Yes you are bang on - it’s completely different.

Just wanted to make a point that when walking round the town centre at 11pm - on my own - I felt somewhat unsafe and felt I had to watch my back. I never felt like that when I was a student at Teesside Uni in the 90s.
 
I suppose educating for me means teaching lads that attitudes in the past aren't acceptable anymore....like the wolf whistling and the lewd remarks when you walk past a group of lads etc
 
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