Another Junior Football Question - Player Behaviour

Sorry, sorry, sorry.......

Another question for the boards Junior Football experts.

Behaviour of players, U10s. Played a game today, opposition players were swearing at our players, swearing at our parents and threatening to "do him/get him etc" to our star player. Out of order.

We are going to report their behaviour to the league......but what is the likely outcome? Warning? Fine? Bang out of order their attitude and sadly we only found out about this after the game otherwise we could have sorted it during the game.

Glad Boro won, would have been a right footy downer otherwise

What did their manager do?

I've heard about one team in the girls leagues up at Washington hub, manager encouraging rough play and confrontation. I wish I was there to pull him up but was working away.

GibbosEmpire said:

What did their manager do?

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We were on the other sideline and neither us, nor their managers heard what was going on until after the game. I had a word with their manager after the game when I was made aware of it - he apparently gave the player a talking to - but it was 3?4? players. Numerous incidents.

U10s? Bang out of order. I know there are FA guidelines etc regarding good behaviour, but haven't clue if our club made a formal complaint anything will come of it.

Certainly left a bad taste.

Ref not notice this ?

Well.......as the official ref didn't show up, one of their parents offered to do it. None of ours were up for it.

Think a lot of it was away from the refs ears, snidey little b*stards.

I know you are running the team now HM, do you do the matchday app report?

I reported a team earlier this season as their parents were encouraging their kids to "snap" ours. And at one point one of their parents told one of their kids to hit my son after he'd left one on him.

My wife pulled him up and he told her to f*ck off.

I sent an email to the league coordinator with a bit of a report of what had happened. I had a phone conversation off the back of it with the league welfare officer. I believe they went and observed their next match where they didn't witness any problem behaviour and that was the end of it.

If it is an isolated incident, they are unlikely to act unless the referee reports if you think it warrants it I would report it to the league. If the same team are being reported consistently then they would act. If everyone just sits on their hands and puts up with it though, the league will never be aware.

Having grown up playing in Stockport's unders leagues, playing for a team from the Heatons, it's good to know that things haven't changed much since the 90s.

LaPennaBianca said:

Having grown up playing in Stockport's unders leagues, playing for a team from the Heatons, it's good to know that things haven't changed much since the 90s.

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These were from the badlands of Bramhall

They're under 10 and shouldn't be playing in leagues.

JackG said:

They're under 10 and shouldn't be playing in leagues.

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It won't be a published league but the matches are still affiliated and managed by the league

B_G said:

I know you are running the team now HM, do you do the matchday app report?

I reported a team earlier this season as their parents were encouraging their kids to "snap" ours. And at one point one of their parents told one of their kids to hit my son after he'd left one on him.

My wife pulled him up and he told her to f*ck off.

I sent an email to the league coordinator with a bit of a report of what had happened. I had a phone conversation off the back of it with the league welfare officer. I believe they went and observed their next match where they didn't witness any problem behaviour and that was the end of it.

If it is an isolated incident, they are unlikely to act unless the referee reports if you think it warrants it I would report it to the league. If the same team are being reported consistently then they would act. If everyone just sits on their hands and puts up with it though, the league will never be aware.

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As I've explained I'm very, very, very new to this so myself and another parent have stepped forward as volunteers from the parents to give a hand with the training (putting the cones out!) and being in charge for Saturdays games; our coach does the coaching - she's qualified and knows what she's doing - but has 3-4 teams to sort out on Saturdays. So we step in.

The "official" stuff is left to her and the club.

They are definitely getting reported, as it was out of order. We're a nice team with a really good bunch of lads who just want to play football and yesterday......a couple came off the pitch really upset. Even our player of the match just looked.....beat when we gave him the award. Shouldn't be like that should it?

It's been great the first 8-9 games win, lose or draw and to be fair the opposition managers and players have all been spot on.......but yesterday was a certain eye opener for what is going on in every junior league up and down the country.

h_m_boro said:

It's been great the first 8-9 games win, lose or draw and to be fair the opposition managers and players have all been spot on.......but yesterday was a certain eye opener for what is going on in every junior league up and down the country.

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There seems to be a team in every division that just cause a few problems.
One of my mates runs a team in Middlebrough which I won't name, full of little rascals. We played them in a friendly once where we had a similar experience of name calling, swearing etc. We had a couple of kids in tears at the end as we were a brand new team at the time and was the first time they'd been exposed to anything like this.

I had arranged to go for a bit of food etc afterwards with my mate and we were discussing it. He was saying to me most of the kids he has in that team are from really disadvantaged backgrounds and have a tougher upbringing than most of the kids I had. Those training sessions and matches are probably the best times of those kids lives. They spend a lot of time speaking to the kids about behaviour on the pitch etc and trying to help them recognise what is and isn't acceptable. They were U9s at the time. The way he looked at it was he has 2 or 3 hours a week to make a difference in their lives and try and help them. Was a bit of an eye opener for me.

B_G said:

There seems to be a team in every division that just cause a few problems.
One of my mates runs a team in Middlebrough which I won't name, full of little rascals. We played them in a friendly once where we had a similar experience of name calling, swearing etc. We had a couple of kids in tears at the end as we were a brand new team at the time and was the first time they'd been exposed to anything like this.

I had arranged to go for a bit of food etc afterwards with my mate and we were discussing it. He was saying to me most of the kids he has in that team are from really disadvantaged backgrounds and have a tougher upbringing than most of the kids I had. Those training sessions and matches are probably the best times of those kids lives. They spend a lot of time speaking to the kids about behaviour on the pitch etc and trying to help them recognise what is and isn't acceptable. They were U9s at the time. The way he looked at it was he has 2 or 3 hours a week to make a difference in their lives and try and help them. Was a bit of an eye opener for me.

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Strange thing is, where the team are from is an affluent area (Bramhall). Looking at the kids and parents they weren't scrotes.....but on the flip side they looked like self entitled little sh*ts who are probably worse.

We've only been running since January, and are a mixture of "rejects" - players deemed "not good enough" for previous teams, were getting little/no game time, and players brand new to team football. And our star player who returned Lazarus like.......
There is already a synergie in the group, great lads as I've said, not one one little sh*t, not one nasty/snidey player. The lads just want to have fun playing footy. Parents are all fully supportive, no amateur coaches yelling "instructions " etc Yesterday was a shock to the players - and parents....and managers.

We felt a bit sh*t after the game as we genuinely didn't know this was going on, if we did I'd have marched on the pitch and stopped the game. The parents were telling us the stuff which happened - but it was all at the other touchline where we weren't. You kind of feel you've let the players down as a few were visibly upset. Hopefully no PTSD moving forward - fingers crossed everything settles down and back to training Tuesday.

Cheers for sharing your experiences