Depression yet again.
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sherlock
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Wishing you well mate, just hang in there and take one day (or hour) at a time.
The Card Cheat
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Sounds horrible mate. I hope things improve for you.
Keep using this forum, there’s a lot of good people on here.
Keep using this forum, there’s a lot of good people on here.
swordtrombonefish
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Baby steps sadgit, you know you can beat it as you have done it before, hopefully small improvements will lead back to the feel good times.
Keep posting...
Keep posting...
whinneybanksaint
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Yeah, just to say youre not alone, im in that boat too. Keep talking to people.
Try listening to music you enjoy, take a long walk or go for a jog. get a sun lamp, ( might help. ) anything to jolt yourself out of that pit. A bit of sunshine helps, im no expert , sorry if its all been said before. Dont give up !!
Try listening to music you enjoy, take a long walk or go for a jog. get a sun lamp, ( might help. ) anything to jolt yourself out of that pit. A bit of sunshine helps, im no expert , sorry if its all been said before. Dont give up !!
guisborough_rob
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PM me if you need anything. Stay strong.
the_gin_soaked_boy
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I'm by no means trying to sound trite here, but you gotta remember that during the dark, dark times good times are just around the corner. You just gotta get through it, as impossible as it sometimes feels...
Recently, I went through another bad spell where suicidal thoughts dominated my mind. I kept going - thinking I'll be on holiday soon and hopefully things will feel better - no guarantee of that happening, granted.
But now I'm sat here in the mountains of Colombia, supping a beer watching hummingbirds darting to and fro. I'm certainly glad today that I didn't succumb to my dark thoughts.
I wish you all the best mate, stay strong and keep sharing! The few good days we experience really can outweigh the horrid.
Much love
Ben
Recently, I went through another bad spell where suicidal thoughts dominated my mind. I kept going - thinking I'll be on holiday soon and hopefully things will feel better - no guarantee of that happening, granted.
But now I'm sat here in the mountains of Colombia, supping a beer watching hummingbirds darting to and fro. I'm certainly glad today that I didn't succumb to my dark thoughts.
I wish you all the best mate, stay strong and keep sharing! The few good days we experience really can outweigh the horrid.
Much love
Ben
sadgit
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I'm not sure how long I can put her through much more of this. My wife has been incredible for the past 4 years
I know the feeling mate. good luck
sadgit
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Ah no, therapist said I wasn't in a fit state for it. I was a quivering wreck. We had 1 30 minutes session of it
FatFrank
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The worst part is the demand you place on your partner and the guilt you build up for thinking that you're a complete burden. From experience, my Wife was always quick to remind me that a day supporting me at my lowest, is always 100X better than a day without me being here.
One day at a time @sadgit - lets keep it going big man!
One day at a time @sadgit - lets keep it going big man!
Hopefully it might be something that could be useful to you later.
Just keep going, we all wish you all the best.
We're all with you sadgit, better times will come mate, try to let it roll and know that it won't last forever. Do whatever takes your mind away, for even one moment at a time, and know that you are special and compassionate person. What you are going through will empower you, soon, and you will be a light to others that are suffering in a similar way. Thanks for sharing, warrior, and I bestow all my best to you 
Nothing compared to the trauma she'd have to deal with should she ever lose you mate.
Think of it like this, roles reversed would you do the same for her for as long as it took and as many times? I'm sure you would and without hesitation.
It's a bit clichéd but the philosophy of 'this too shall pass' has to become the cornerstone of any mental health battle. No emotional state, good or bad, lasts for ever. It's just that some people's peaks and troughs have greater depth and length, sometimes it feels like it will never pass, but it will and does.
The key is to start recognising the patterns of when that low may be starting, did something trigger it? A time of year, a bit of weight gain, money issues etc., and try to identify patterns.
At the same time, what patterns do you notice when it starts to lift? Some time off work, going away for a few days, a boro win etc.
Mental health is often a life long battle, and it's about trying to be proactive in identifying trends to be able to make the ups and downs more manageable and smooth.
Other practical steps are exercising consistently (can be a 20 minute walk on your own listening to some music or a podcast), deliberately making time for doing things you enjoy every week (selfishly, unapologetically and for no other reason than you enjoy it), get the Dr to test your bloods (low testosterone amongst other things can be a big problem), and obviously medication and talking therapies.