Depression

All our spirits are down with the boro not being promoted last season i need them to hit the ground running when season starts & get out of this league once & for all.
 
It's a horrible thing. I thought I was turning the corner. Then 2nd June one of my cats went missing. Well taken I'm sure. You might laugh and say its only a cat. But she was best friend and was helping me. We go for walks on a night and stuff. Can't stop thinking about her. Guess I'm back to square one 😑
 
I just about lost a year to the black dog from April last year. I wanted to get off anti-depressants and I did but it back fired horribly. I managed for a long time without meds but now I would argue they have made me dependent on them. I have been diagnosed with chronic depression that I just have to accept - it does not need anything to start - life can be great but the black dog just turns up and, in my case, the tw.at is never going to leave.
It was horrible though not life threatening - some poor people, including our friends on this board, have it a lot, lot worse than I ever had. It took a lot of meds changing until one started to help but I was getting desperate and it was obvious to anybody who knew me. My shrink even blarted out that he could see in my face that I was losing patience with him. But, like most have stated on here, many times over, it slowly started to get better.
I have my heart set on psylocibin becoming legal in this country because it is obviously such a potent anti-depressant. Until then I will be stuck on SSRIs though still grateful for their effect despite the obvious addiction to them.

I have total sympathy with AET and other fellow sufferers. But sometimes words from others just do not make any difference, as good hearted they may be. Lots of well intentioned advice of ' you need to to do this... that..the other' doesnt help. Comments from people close to me who have never suffered from depression have often been particularly offensive and ignorant but, ironically, totally well meaning.
 
clag01 said:
It's a horrible thing. I thought I was turning the corner. Then 2nd June one of my cats went missing. Well taken I'm sure. You might laugh and say its only a cat. But she was best friend and was helping me. We go for walks on a night and stuff. Can't stop thinking about her. Guess I'm back to square one 😑
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So sorry to hear that mate. I know how close you can feel to a pet. It's never "only a cat or a dog", it's part of your family. Hope things improve for you.
 
The Card Cheat said:
So sorry to hear that mate. I know how close you can feel to a pet. It's never "only a cat or a dog", it's part of your family. Hope things improve for you.
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Thank you. This came about coz somebody posted a pic on a fb group with location. Saying she looked lost scared and hungry. The pic was shared. The pic was taken 20 yards from where we live at the bottom of the alley. It's only a small alley 4 houses. She has been going there for years when I let her out. The people from the martial arts gym took the pic coz they had been letting their dogs run loose. Bottom of Marton Road. The very next day after the post she vanished. Four years without a problem. She would never just got missing 😔
 
MoggasDog said:
...... But sometimes words from others just do not make any difference, as good hearted they may be. Lots of well intentioned advice of ' you need to to do this... that..the other' doesnt help. Comments from people close to me who have never suffered from depression have often been particularly offensive and ignorant but, ironically, totally well meaning.
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But then what are we, those that fortunately don't suffer from this, supposed to do when we want to show empathy and support ? If Aet feels that he can share how he's feeling on here, he can't pick and choose the reactions, all of which incidently I've read as 100% empathetic and concerned - how would he feel if there were no responses at all ?
 
Aet290204 said:
Just when you think you are out the woods.

Fecking evil affliction isn’t it.
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Lived with it most of my life from my early 20s and it crawled its way back in during the last year due to my partner passing. I've been on different tablets over the years but none worked and some often made me feel worse. Don't give up on medication though as the ones I'm taking now have transformed my thinking. If you're not having success with any current medication ask your GP for a change. Everybody is different and not everybody is suited to the medication they are on. Hooe you can feel better soon whatever path you chose. Its the most debilitating illness imaginable if its untreated
 
Malaguena said:
But then what are we, those that fortunately don't suffer from this, supposed to do when we want to show empathy and support ? If Aet feels that he can share how he's feeling on here, he can't pick and choose the reactions, all of which incidently I've read as 100% empathetic and concerned - how would he feel if there were no responses at all
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I’ve had training in this type of thing, the worse thing you can do to some who is experiencing something is to tell you know how they are feeling. You don’t, it’s their feelings, they are individual to that person.
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Share your experience by all means and show empathy that way, say this worked for me it might or might not work for you but don’t be direct and say this is what you should do.

If you are direct with someone, which can come across that way in text (even if isn’t the intention) then that will get the reaction from people who are suffering.

I don’t think you can tell aet how and how he shouldn’t react, given some of the responses I can understand why he has reacted in such a way
 
how are things AET?

Things that work for me now, I scoffed at years ago. I had God complex, I knew better than anyone, to a degree, I still do but I have learned I needed help and I feel honoured to have met other people who go through this and are open about it now.

I frigging LOVE life, really love life but when it hits, it hits. I will never preach as we are all different, but I had to learn my triggers and learn how to deal with them, without medication or vodka.
 
sadgit said:
how are things AET?

Things that work for me now, I scoffed at years ago. I had God complex, I knew better than anyone, to a degree, I still do but I have learned I needed help and I feel honoured to have met other people who go through this and are open about it now.

I frigging LOVE life, really love life but when it hits, it hits. I will never preach as we are all different, but I had to learn my triggers and learn how to deal with them, without medication or vodka.
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I've been down every road I think over the years. Self treating through contemplation and doing it myself along with sinking into the bottom of a bottle. Went 20 years at one point without it reappearing through positive thinking and not giving a ****. It can always come back though and some of the tricks that you've learned over the years don't always work the next time. It's hard work suffering with it and it doesn't always have reason to reappear. I've had some really **** days in the last 11 months but age has taught me that it's not a permanent condition and I will feel better at some point. Good luck with it mate as I know it's fecking difficult ar times.
 
Hi.
Was taken into A&E about 4am, to cut a long story short I sat waiting ages then was put on a drip and told to talk to a physchiatric nurse.
Got home about 6:30 pm Weds night and have had little or no energy since so I’ve stayed in bed. Projectile vomited over the bathroom floor and wall that night but since then have just been knackered.all this has done is made me feel sick for three days so whatever made me do it - I can say it wasn’t worth it. Just spoke to a duty doctor this evening and I have a prescription now. Will have to get up tomorrow to go pick it up.
 
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