Friends. Not the TV programme.

sadgit

sadgit

Well-known member
Do people have childhood mates/friends still. My therapist thinks I am a bit odd as I have zero friends from my school/collage/uni days. I did move around a bit due, to a family divorce etc but I dont even remember the few friends I had, I dont even know their names.
 
There are a few lads on here who I went to school with that I would call friends and would stand and talk to when out but everyone I knock about with are lads who I played or went to watch football with.
 
Several of us from school still living in Saltburn or nearby and they're still my best friends in the main a few who moved away still in touch so see them when they come home 👍
 
I have 4-5 mates from school who I still speak to almost daily on WhatsApp and meet up with as often as logistics allow.

One lives in Norway, a couple still live in Teesside, one lives in London and another now lives near me in the NW.

They’re not all part of the same group. I was part of a bigger group from school/college who are all still mates but I grew apart from most of them, and I wouldn’t say I considered them all good friends.

That said, I don’t think it’s that odd that you don’t still hang around with your school friends. Circumstances dictate etc.
 
My closest mates I’ve known since School/College and we all live pretty local.

My friendship groups have dramatically altered over the 15 years. In college we had a really large social circle which was a mix of different groups. We all used to regularly meet at Leeds festival once people went off to Uni etc. but that soon stopped from about 23-24 and people separated off into their own groups.

I’ve made various other friends over the years through playing sports and work. A lot of people from my younger days I’ve drifted apart from. Not intentionally, just life in general - people moving away etc.
 
Still have a few good friends from back then but only about half a dozen or so really. Don't see them very often because they all seemed to move away from Teesside for work at exactly the same time that I moved back here, after working away for nearly thirty years.
 
My Dads job meant that we had to move every four years. I have not got any friends from my school/ uni days it was very difficult to keep in touch. It also affected me making friendships as I always knew that I would be moving soon.
I have mates that I used to work with, but again it is strange to evolve from being a colleague to a friend. I have linked up with a few people via facebook, but we are hardly on speaking terms.
Most of my mates are now from the biker community, we talk to most people when we stop.

Just to see if any of my old Boro friends use this site. Is anybody from Hutton Rudby in the early seventies when I was a junior school there ?
 
It's not always possible (or desirable) to keep in touch with schoolfriends as your social circle develops. You lose touch, even in these social media days.
If you wanted to keep in contact with people, you would have done. Friendships are not for life, they develop as you mature.
Unlike family, sadly. You're stuck with those.
 
Not me. Billy no mates. I have one friend, the others are people I drink with in the pub
 
Go to the pub most Friday nights with 3 friends I went to school with and if my son can't make the odd home game one of them generally takes his place.
 
You’re not alone Sadgit. I have no friends from school either. They were all bellends and I’m very gladly shot of them all.

You keep the friends in life that have a positive influence and true value… and the same in reverse to them.

If they fall away from you then it’s usually with good reason
 
Acklam_Lad said:
You’re not alone Sadgit. I have no friends from school either. They were all bellends and I’m very gladly shot of them all.

You keep the friends in life that have a positive influence and true value… and the same in reverse to them.

If they fall away from you then it’s usually with good reason
Click to expand...
Said better than I did.
 
firstly I very much doubt your therapist thinks your a bit odd !!

I too haven’t kept in touch with anyone from school or university.

Although I had one friend from Uni who I’ve kept in contact online.

And since I moved back to the town where I went to school I do occasionally see people I recognise and I have had a few conversations in the pub/street with one lad I knew from Junior school. Wouldnt call him a friend though.
 
I think that most people have whittled friendship groups down to a small number past the age of 30. The only people I can think of with busy social calendars are members of sports teams or don't have young children.

I saw some old friends at a funeral a couple of months ago and it was nice to think how we've all gone off and followed different paths, but could still have a good chat without just going over the old days while staring at a pint.
 
I remember gary Neville saying on one of his shows that when he left school at 15/16, he has never seen or spoken to a single person he went to school with ever since (except his brother I supppse!)

Roy Keane looked at him like he was mental 😂
 
AytonMews said:
I remember gary Neville saying on one of his shows that when he left school at 15/16, he has never seen or spoken to a single person he went to school with ever since (except his brother I supppse!)

Roy Keane looked at him like he was mental 😂
Click to expand...
I saw that too, did he not say he was advised to do that though to focus on becoming a professional footballer.
 
Stocko said:
I saw that too, did he not say he was advised to do that though to focus on becoming a professional footballer.
Click to expand...

Yeah I would imagine it happens to a lot of footballers.

At 15/16 you’re just discovering booze and birds, whereas the lads who are dedicated enough to become pro footballers would be having an early night ready for training in the morning
 
It's a good question. I think social media .... from Friends Re-united to myspace an fb... have made it easier to reconnect with those friends that you really want to re-connect with.

I go to the match with my oldest friend (that I still have). We've known each other since we were 8... played football, travelled Europe... and now we socialise and watch the Boro together.

I have another old school friend that I plan to go to a game with soon.

I still see and go to gigs with several old mates from the Rock Garden. The Rock Garden easily accounts for most of my retained and valued friendships. There are even some RG oldies on here that I didn't really know at the time, who I have become friends with. I am not sure whether they count as childhood.... but I guess from 15 to 18 you are still a child really.
 
You must log in or register to reply here.
Back
Top