I fkn hate my life
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Beverleyred
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Stay strong RA, unfortunately, it’s happened or will happen to all of us at sometime in our lifetime. That is never easy for anyone including family and friends to work through, just remember the good times and the memories will stay with you.
MichaelDebeve
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Awful news, thoughts are with you and your family.
Gramsci
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Very sorry for you. I sat with my father for forty eight hours when he was dying and apparently unconscious. Kept talking to him, remembering the good times and telling him I loved him. Every now and then there was the faintest twitch. I like to think that he could hear me even though he was unconscious.
DonTheKing
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So sorry buddy, had the same situation with my brother nearly 2 years ago. Its hard but you will be OK 
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DidsburySmog92
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I lost both my parents in the last 18 months. Heart goes out to you. You will be ok. Take care of yourself.
whinneybanksaint
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you could have written that for me Gramsci.
God Bless everyone whose been through or going through this awful time.
asredastheycome
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You just find a way to go on mate. I lost my mother and a month later my wife. I didn't know whether I was coming or going. Family and good friends we what kept me going. They say it will get easier and it will but it will never take away the memories of those you have lost.
You are not at that stage yet but good luck to you and your dad.
You are not at that stage yet but good luck to you and your dad.
Thank you all for your comments
They turned my Dads life support off at 17:15 on Monday.
It’s now ten to three in the morning on Tuesday and he is still with us.
He had a significant bleed on the brain which has caused all this
We knew he had leukaemia but it was under control however they told us yesterday morning that the blood cancer was aggressive
Because of this the neurologist would not operate as they was a fair too greater risk of him not surviving the op.
if he had have woken up he would have needed24 hour care and Dad is too proud a man to want that
On top of this he also now has sepsis.
He isn’t here in mind but his body is still keeping him going.
They turned my Dads life support off at 17:15 on Monday.
It’s now ten to three in the morning on Tuesday and he is still with us.
He had a significant bleed on the brain which has caused all this
We knew he had leukaemia but it was under control however they told us yesterday morning that the blood cancer was aggressive
Because of this the neurologist would not operate as they was a fair too greater risk of him not surviving the op.
if he had have woken up he would have needed24 hour care and Dad is too proud a man to want that
On top of this he also now has sepsis.
He isn’t here in mind but his body is still keeping him going.
Lemmy_kilmister
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I know what this is like for you.
We had to make the decision with the doctor when it was clear that any treatment wasn't going to do any good.
He had T4 Non Hodgkin's lymphoma. His blood pressure dropped and his lungs couldn't be drained, and it was suspected he had sepsis. His antibiotics weren't working and his kidneys were failing.
There wasn't anything that could be done. All that could be done was to make it as comfortable as possible for him and wait.
It's an awful awful thing to see happening to a loved one.
Thoughts are with you mate.
We had to make the decision with the doctor when it was clear that any treatment wasn't going to do any good.
He had T4 Non Hodgkin's lymphoma. His blood pressure dropped and his lungs couldn't be drained, and it was suspected he had sepsis. His antibiotics weren't working and his kidneys were failing.
There wasn't anything that could be done. All that could be done was to make it as comfortable as possible for him and wait.
It's an awful awful thing to see happening to a loved one.
Thoughts are with you mate.
Norman_Conquest
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Hello mate, you are going through an awful time at the moment and every one of us feels your pain.Woke up this morning without a care In the world.
Currently sat at n the corridor outside ICU in James Cook with Dad inside
He is not going to wake up
I love you Dad
Remember, grief is a natural emotion that impacts us all in different ways. Make sure you take time for yourself to grieve and don't be frightened to share your emotions with others.
I know now is not the time but in the future you could come and meet up with the others who use the coffee club. Sometimes talking to a stranger about how you feel can be easier.
Norman_Conquest
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In the past I volunteered at Teesside Hospice's 'Forget Me Not' bereavement programme for young people. One of the stories we shared with young people was 'The Water Bugs and Dragonflies' by Doris Stickney (it also worked with adults). I'm not sure if you have any young people in your family that you could share this story with.
Down below the surface of a quiet pond lived a little colony of water bugs. They were a happy colony, living far away from the sun. For many months they were very busy, scurrying over the soft mud on the bottom of the pond. They did notice that every once in a while one of their colony seemed to lose interest in going about with its friends. Clinging to the stem of a pond lily, it gradually moved out of sight and was seen no more.
“Look” said one of the water bugs to another. “One of our colony is climbing the lily stalk. Where do you suppose he is going?” Up, up, up it went slowly. Even as they watched, the water bug disappeared from sight. Its friends watched, and waited but it didn’t return. “That’s funny!” said one water bug to another. “Wasn’t he happy here?” asked a second water bug. “Where do you suppose he went?” wondered a third. No one had an answer. They were greatly puzzled. Finally one of the water bugs, a leader in the colony, gathered its friends together “I have an idea. The next one of us who climbs up the lily stalk must promise to come back and tell us where he went and why.” “We promise,” they said solemnly.
One spring day, not long after, the very water bug who had suggested the plan found himself climbing up the lily stalk. Up, up, up he went. Before he knew what was happening, he had broken through the surface of the water, and fallen on to a broad, green lily pad above. When he awoke, he looked about with surprise. He couldn’t believe what he saw. A startling change had come to his old body. His movement revealed four silver wings and a long tail. Even as he struggled, he felt an impulse to move his wings. The warmth of the sun soon dried the moisture from the new body. He moved his wings again and suddenly found himself up above the water. He had become a dragonfly. Swooping and dipping in great curves he flew through the air. He felt exhilarated in the new atmosphere.
By and by, the new dragonfly landed happily on a lily pad to rest. Then it was that he chanced to look below to the bottom of the pond. Why, he was right above his old friends the water bugs. There they were scurrying about, just as he had been doing some time before. Then the dragonfly remembered the promise: The next one of us who climbs up the lily stalk will come back and tell where he went and why. Without thinking, the dragonfly darted down. Suddenly he hit the surface of the water and bounced away. Now that he was a dragonfly, he could no longer go into the water.
“I can’t return” he said in dismay “At least I tried, but I can’t keep my promise. Even if I could go back, none of the water bugs would know me in my new body. I guess I’ll just have to wait until they become Dragonflies too. Then they will understand what happened to me, and where I went” And the Dragonfly flew off happily into its wonderful new world of sun and air.
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Down below the surface of a quiet pond lived a little colony of water bugs. They were a happy colony, living far away from the sun. For many months they were very busy, scurrying over the soft mud on the bottom of the pond. They did notice that every once in a while one of their colony seemed to lose interest in going about with its friends. Clinging to the stem of a pond lily, it gradually moved out of sight and was seen no more.
“Look” said one of the water bugs to another. “One of our colony is climbing the lily stalk. Where do you suppose he is going?” Up, up, up it went slowly. Even as they watched, the water bug disappeared from sight. Its friends watched, and waited but it didn’t return. “That’s funny!” said one water bug to another. “Wasn’t he happy here?” asked a second water bug. “Where do you suppose he went?” wondered a third. No one had an answer. They were greatly puzzled. Finally one of the water bugs, a leader in the colony, gathered its friends together “I have an idea. The next one of us who climbs up the lily stalk must promise to come back and tell us where he went and why.” “We promise,” they said solemnly.
One spring day, not long after, the very water bug who had suggested the plan found himself climbing up the lily stalk. Up, up, up he went. Before he knew what was happening, he had broken through the surface of the water, and fallen on to a broad, green lily pad above. When he awoke, he looked about with surprise. He couldn’t believe what he saw. A startling change had come to his old body. His movement revealed four silver wings and a long tail. Even as he struggled, he felt an impulse to move his wings. The warmth of the sun soon dried the moisture from the new body. He moved his wings again and suddenly found himself up above the water. He had become a dragonfly. Swooping and dipping in great curves he flew through the air. He felt exhilarated in the new atmosphere.
By and by, the new dragonfly landed happily on a lily pad to rest. Then it was that he chanced to look below to the bottom of the pond. Why, he was right above his old friends the water bugs. There they were scurrying about, just as he had been doing some time before. Then the dragonfly remembered the promise: The next one of us who climbs up the lily stalk will come back and tell where he went and why. Without thinking, the dragonfly darted down. Suddenly he hit the surface of the water and bounced away. Now that he was a dragonfly, he could no longer go into the water.
“I can’t return” he said in dismay “At least I tried, but I can’t keep my promise. Even if I could go back, none of the water bugs would know me in my new body. I guess I’ll just have to wait until they become Dragonflies too. Then they will understand what happened to me, and where I went” And the Dragonfly flew off happily into its wonderful new world of sun and air.
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