Andys man club ?

I have been attending one in Whitby since the start of the year. Have had issues with anxiety on and off for 30+ years, and although I have a much better handle on it these days I thoughts I would pop along.
I find it to be really helpful, they are all run by volunteers with a couple of trained facilitators in each session. Its very non judgemental and supportive, and in the Whitby group its a real good cross section of lads, all different ages and backgrounds. Very much based on talking, but if you just want to listen then thats fine as well. The best thing for me is that it brings lads together who wouldn't normally talk about stuff and there is lots of experience and advice shared between the lads in the group. We get anywhere from about 15 through to 20 in a typical session, and its not all deep stuff, there is a lot of laughter in ours at times.
For anyone considering it I would say give it a try, and lots do give it a try. Every session I have attended has had at least one lad coming through the door for the first time.
 
Casualwoolyback said:
I have been attending one in Whitby since the start of the year. Have had issues with anxiety on and off for 30+ years, and although I have a much better handle on it these days I thoughts I would pop along.
I find it to be really helpful, they are all run by volunteers with a couple of trained facilitators in each session. Its very non judgemental and supportive, and in the Whitby group its a real good cross section of lads, all different ages and backgrounds. Very much based on talking, but if you just want to listen then thats fine as well. The best thing for me is that it brings lads together who wouldn't normally talk about stuff and there is lots of experience and advice shared between the lads in the group. We get anywhere from about 15 through to 20 in a typical session, and its not all deep stuff, there is a lot of laughter in ours at times.
For anyone considering it I would say give it a try, and lots do give it a try. Every session I have attended has had at least one lad coming through the door for the first time.
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Thanks for that , appreciate it
 
There is one at the Family Hub (or behind) in Roseworth. I went to the first few but then starting playing touch rugby on a Monday which conflicted and didn't want to not play rugby which helps contribute towards my good mental health. It would be a slight contradiction.

A fantastic group of lads who all volunteer (or largely, there may be 1 guy who is employed by AMC present) to help other guys. You get asked 3-4 questions and go round a group to give each answer, you can say as much or as little as you want as long as it doesn't contradict their T&Cs (no sexism, racism, politics, name dropping etc).

I'd 100% recommend it for anyone who is wanting to get some things off their chest.
 
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FatFrank said:
There is one at the Family Hub (or behind) in Roseworth. I went to the first few but then starting playing touch rugby on a Monday which conflicted and didn't want to not play rugby which helps contribute towards my good mental health. It would be a slight contradiction.

A fantastic group of lads who all volunteer (or largely, there may be 1 guy who is employed by AMC present) to help other guys. You get asked 3-4 questions and go round a group to give each answer, you can say as much or as little as you want as long as it doesn't contradict their T&Cs (no sexism, racism, politics, name dropping etc).

I'd 100% recommend it for anyone who is wanting to get some things off their chest.
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I went to Hartlepool (plus Horden a few times) group for a couple of years and it was a life saver when I was there. Helped me with my anxiety massively but after a couple of years, I started taking other peoples problems home with me! :D That was my issue not of the groups. Hardest part is walking in the door, once you have it will be good for anyone.
 
sadgit said:
I went to Hartlepool (plus Horden a few times) group for a couple of years and it was a life saver when I was there. Helped me with my anxiety massively but after a couple of years, I started taking other peoples problems home with me! :D That was my issue not of the groups. Hardest part is walking in the door, once you have it will be good for anyone.
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Is this is Boro / North East thing or is it countrywide ?

I've only recently started seeing a therapist / life coach, and whilst he appears to be good at what he does I find the 1:1 nature of the sessions quite intense (not to mention he charges me £125 a hour).

I actually think I would welcome the opportunity to hear from other people, as deep down I know I've got it pretty good, and so purely on a selfish level I think it would help (me at least) hearing from people who have real problems and I may even be able to help them.
 
The_Lizards_Jumpers said:
Is this is Boro / North East thing or is it countrywide ?

I've only recently started seeing a therapist / life coach, and whilst he appears to be good at what he does I find the 1:1 nature of the sessions quite intense (not to mention he charges me £125 a hour).

I actually think I would welcome the opportunity to hear from other people, as deep down I know I've got it pretty good, and so purely on a selfish level I think it would help (me at least) hearing from people who have real problems and I may even be able to help them.
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The_Lizards_Jumpers said:
Is this is Boro / North East thing or is it countrywide ?

I've only recently started seeing a therapist / life coach, and whilst he appears to be good at what he does I find the 1:1 nature of the sessions quite intense (not to mention he charges me £125 a hour).

I actually think I would welcome the opportunity to hear from other people, as deep down I know I've got it pretty good, and so purely on a selfish level I think it would help (me at least) hearing from people who have real problems and I may even be able to help them.
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Some years back, I qualified as a counsellor but ended up going in a different direction. I need to get my tweed jacket with the leather patches back out if they are charging them prices.

That Andy Man Club looks good and I am sure if you Google there will be something similar in your area.
 
I attended their meetings in the back of Boro Town Hall Last Year around the end of May/early June when I was briefly back on Teesside working on a local shutdown, as I was quite depressed at the time, & still struggling to come to terms with the death of my ex wife, from suicide in the Summer of 2021. I found that it didn't do a lot for me, despite them being a generally welcoming bunch of guys. However that may have been down to my own personal circumstances at the time, in that nobody in the group had been through what I 'd gone through, I also reside in Spain & have generally tended to work in other places abroad, again as there was no one else who had experience of this in the group, I found it difficult to relate to people & this certainly doesn't mean I thought I was above it, it's just easier to relate to people who've gone through the same pain. I know that every Councillor who provides advice on bereavement by suicide, however when I've found myself in a dark place over the last couple of years, I find it easier & more assuring to speak to someone who's experienced the same pain & really knows what you're going through.
 
Bangersandmash said:
I attended their meetings in the back of Boro Town Hall Last Year around the end of May/early June when I was briefly back on Teesside working on a local shutdown, as I was quite depressed at the time, & still struggling to come to terms with the death of my ex wife, from suicide in the Summer of 2021. I found that it didn't do a lot for me, despite them being a generally welcoming bunch of guys. However that may have been down to my own personal circumstances at the time, in that nobody in the group had been through what I 'd gone through, I also reside in Spain & have generally tended to work in other places abroad, again as there was no one else who had experience of this in the group, I found it difficult to relate to people & this certainly doesn't mean I thought I was above it, it's just easier to relate to people who've gone through the same pain. I know that every Councillor who provides advice on bereavement by suicide, however when I've found myself in a dark place over the last couple of years, I find it easier & more assuring to speak to someone who's experienced the same pain & really knows what you're going through.
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I feel that some people deal with their emotions better in a one to one session and other people in groups. I ran a self help group in Loftus and other than making the coffee and doing the introductions, I did very little else. The group would facilitate the conversation and it moved along at their own pace.
 
The_Lizards_Jumpers said:
Is this is Boro / North East thing or is it countrywide ?

I've only recently started seeing a therapist / life coach, and whilst he appears to be good at what he does I find the 1:1 nature of the sessions quite intense (not to mention he charges me £125 a hour).

I actually think I would welcome the opportunity to hear from other people, as deep down I know I've got it pretty good, and so purely on a selfish level I think it would help (me at least) hearing from people who have real problems and I may even be able to help them.
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Nationwide mate. All meet on a Monday night from 7 until 9. Pretty sure you will find one near you if you have a look on their website. Really recommend it, I get a lot from the one I go to and its nice to be able to actually put a bit back in as I have had some experience of some of the issues that others are facing for the first time.
 
The_Lizards_Jumpers said:
Is this is Boro / North East thing or is it countrywide ?

I've only recently started seeing a therapist / life coach, and whilst he appears to be good at what he does I find the 1:1 nature of the sessions quite intense (not to mention he charges me £125 a hour).

I actually think I would welcome the opportunity to hear from other people, as deep down I know I've got it pretty good, and so purely on a selfish level I think it would help (me at least) hearing from people who have real problems and I may even be able to help them.
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It actually started in Halifax where I live.
Weird seeing the adverts in the pubs in Billingham!
I know who the guy who started it is, but I don't know him. I think he is an ex-Rugby player and I think his brother (or brother in law) was called Andy and killed himself - hence the club is named after him.
 
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