Friends. Not the TV programme.

Still in touch with 9 from school, 4 of those known since primary school and meet up with most of them 2 or 3 times a year, none of us live on Teesside anymore.

Whereas haven't seen my old uni mates for years.

My brother is the other way around, doesn't really see anyone from school but has a big bunch of uni mates.

A lot of it is luck of the draw as to who you meet, who is in your year at school etc. No point maintaining friendships for the sake of it.
 
Still got mates I met in the 1970s at school then at the pub socialising and make an effort to make sure I stay in touch and go to the pub.
Got a couple of older mates from the 1960s who I talk to on social media but don't meet up with.
 
I find it strange that the therapist would make you doubt your self more for not having old friends from school…

I’ve got a group of 5 close friends and in touch with others but I don’t think it’s that unusual for others not to have any, due to many circumstances… my wife has limited contact due to her dad being in the forces and my kids are similar due to me also serving and moving them about…
 
I have 3 'real' friends, 2 from my schooldays and even though we are spread all over the UK, we can catch up and slip into a comfortable place, we just get each other. The other I met over 20 years ago and he's a Bristol lad, but we share a sense of humour where we just click. I haven't seen him in a while as he lives in Perth now, but when we do chat, again its easy.

Everyone else tends to be fleeting based on work, where I live and the social things I take part in.
 
most of my close mates are from where i grew up( whinney banks) i still drink with them and attend boro games with them, been going to the matches with 3 of them since 88 still do now, got a few mates outside of that circle who are good pals aswell. UTB
 
There’s over 12 of us Acklam lads that grew up in the 70s/80s and went to school together, that are still in touch daily. All still live on Teesside and still go out for the odd drink, cycle ride and Boro matches etc. There’s also the annual Christmas get together.
 
I think their is a wide definition of friendship and each of us will have our own interpretation.

i never though my closest friend would end up being my partner - but after spending 35 years together supporting each other and sharing …. she is.

I now live in the same small city as one of my friends from school - known him over 50 years and that relationship is really strong. We both get a lot out of it.

Another old school friend lives in London and I’d put him in the category of ’close’

After that it’s all much of a muchness with relationships - we pass by, we chat, we move on and repeat.
 
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Still best mates with the lad I met on my first day in nursery at 3 years old. Also my close friendship group is made up of at least 10 people who went to the same schools and colleges albeit in different years.
 
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