Red Wine Drinking and being a *#@*

Fell out with a mate who was a heavy drinker, real nasty and I ended up throwing my phone at a wall out of pure frustration from him putting pressure on me to drink more and constantly bullying me. We became friends again but he stopped talking to me recently because I forgot to say happy birthday. When he wasn't drinking heavy we got on great, his loss I think.
 
In my opinion he’s very much in the wrong and he should be the one to try and salvage the friendship. If he doesn’t then as others have said it’s his loss. He’ll run out of friends with that type of behaviour.
 
John67 said:
Been off booze for a month but went out last night for a few real beers with a mate. He went and bought a bottle of red wine whilst I stayed on beer. We have been friends for nearly 30 years and never had a cross word. His demeanour flipped, towards the end of the bottles contents, from let’s have a catch up and a laugh to thinking he could get away with saying something quite arrogant and hurtful. I stood up, left my pint and walked out and I think that’s the end of a long friendship. I fell out with another longtime friend a few years ago, who also used to flip, always when drinking red wine. Is it the wine, the person or me?
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I’ve been binge watching the USA cops body cams on YouTube. I’ve been shocked at how different people can become when intoxicated. Personally? I believe we can all act like clowns on too much plonk. However, a whopping big however, when someone tends to be nasty, or say something vindictive? The alcohol removes their “sociable” filter and their subconscious reveals its self. The question about red wine? It’s high alcohol content and it just helps people reach their subconscious quicker.
 
It all depends on the person really. I drink red wine but am a daft drunk - I get silly, over share and then sleepy... and that's about it! I've known others however who are just plain nasty when in drink. Such people make and lose friends quickly and, in my experience at least, don't tend to take responsibility for their own behaviour. It's his loss.
 
I was brought up with 10.30 closing time, lads drinking rounds, and woe betide you if someone was down to his last inch of beer and you weren't at the bar queuing up if it was your round. Accordingly, I drink way too quickly even 40 years on and steer clear of spirits because if I drink them I could be on my back by 9 o'clock. The last time I acted in a way I really regretted I'd been drinking red wine from early afternoon at a barbecue. I gave up booze for four months after as a result (a first). If the OP's mate is like me, he maybe went at it too quick. At least with lager you can't drink it that quick because it's too gassy.

At the end of the day you have to own if if you've been a cnut - booze is no excuse, but almost always the reason. If things were said that can't be taken back, it may take time to heal the friendship, but your friend will know if he crossed a line. Other things may be eating him; that's often the case too. I send him a 'How are feeling today?' type text, but he needs to be a man and apologise.
 
I’m having red wine tonight 😳.

As far as this post goes, you can probably class me as an angry drunk. For that reason I don’t drink to excess now. I would definitely remember the day after if I’d done something like the friend did.
 
Wine turns many people into complete c*nts, men and women. My wife wont touch the stuff as she openly admits it turns her into a horrible person. She sticks to cocktails or spirits when drinking.
 
Priv said:
Wine turns many people into complete c*nts, men and women. My wife wont touch the stuff as she openly admits it turns her into a horrible person. She sticks to cocktails or spirits when drinking.
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When I used to drink and have spirits, I was not a happy or a nasty drunk. I was more an unconscious drunk lol.
 
Easterside_Red said:
I read people saying reach out to him. Fcuk that, forget about him and if he really is the sort of friend you thought he was then he'll be back in touch to apologise. Alcohol has encouraged him to reveal some innermost thoughts about you. You really are better off without 'friends' like that.
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I’m inclined to agree with this. The length of time you’ve been mates with someone is irrelevant unless you’re both exactly the same people as you were when you met. Which you, of course, won’t be. Sometimes it’s time to just accept your friendship ain’t what it was and step back from it, doesn’t mean you have to write it off entirely but wait til he gets in touch and, if he doesn’t, maybe he wasn’t such a good mate after all.
 
GibbosEmpire said:
Fell out with a mate who was a heavy drinker, real nasty and I ended up throwing my phone at a wall out of pure frustration from him putting pressure on me to drink more and constantly bullying me. We became friends again but he stopped talking to me recently because I forgot to say happy birthday. When he wasn't drinking heavy we got on great, his loss I think.
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Wow you’ve never told us about you friendship with Yaya Toure before GE!
 
It's definitely just the strength of the alcohol in each drink, I don't get why people try to blame it on the specific drink for their behaviour.

Grapes are not making you aggressive, it's just being drunk that's doing it.
Wine is significantly stronger that a pint.
 
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