ADHD in adults

I know a couple of people with it and just being aware of that helped them quite abit. It’s abit of a mixed bag as too many people know little about it and there’s a fair few where it’s masked by other issues who never get the diagnosis. Glad you’ve got your diagnosis, hopefully it will help you move forward.
What are they recommending for treatment?
 
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Waiting to get my daughter (she's 19) diagnosed as we are convinced she has it. 2 year waiting list or pay over a grand to go private.

Did some research into it and she is ticking all of the boxes, and explains an awful lot of her behaviour.

So we have to struggle on with what has become pretty much a daily rollercoaster - and it's hard, and we can't do a thing about it.
 
For me it's the knowing that you have it, and ways to manage it, and gives a reason for certain behaviour, when for years you've been told you don't listen, or don't pay attention, even from family members. There is certain meds but for now I'm happy with just knowing and being able to manage it, medication might be an avenue to go down, but not now, just coming to terms with it is more important.
 
GibbosEmpire said:
For me it's the knowing that you have it, and ways to manage it, and gives a reason for certain behaviour, when for years you've been told you don't listen, or don't pay attention, even from family members. There is certain meds but for now I'm happy with just knowing and being able to manage it, medication might be an avenue to go down, but not now, just coming to terms with it is more important.
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Just out of interest, what were the symptoms that led you to get tested, and what was the actually process of diagnosis like ?
 
My girlfriend noticed it first, she'll be talking to me and my eyes wander and I couldn't focus at all, when I was at school I'd always leave work to the last minute, id be doing homrwork at 4am.
In my room I have a closet, which is jam-packed full of stuff, none of it organised just thrown in for later when I have to do it. I'm extremely forgetful, lost a camera, pair of headphones, my passport just to name a few things because I've left them on buses or trains. My organisation skills are appalling.
My friends or family would say I'm so careless, to the point its like I have no empathy with anyone. Tend to start new tasks without finishing previous ones.
The_Lizards_Jumpers said:
Just out of interest, what were the symptoms that led you to get tested, and what was the actually process of diagnosis like ?
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GibbosEmpire said:
My girlfriend noticed it first, she'll be talking to me and my eyes wander and I couldn't focus at all, when I was at school I'd always leave work to the last minute, id be doing homrwork at 4am.
In my room I have a closet, which is jam-packed full of stuff, none of it organised just thrown in for later when I have to do it. I'm extremely forgetful, lost a camera, pair of headphones, my passport just to name a few things because I've left them on buses or trains. My organisation skills are appalling.
My friends or family would say I'm so careless, to the point its like I have no empathy with anyone. Tend to start new tasks without finishing previous ones.
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Thanks for the honesty, and I recognise a number of those traits in myself although I'm not that forgetful and I can be amazing at organising if I've got the desire at that particular time.

Did you just got to the doctors and say you thought you had ADHD ?

Apologies for all the questions.
 
There is some questionnaires you can take online, which can give you a good idea, but on the whole you need to talk to a doctor, which can be done privately for a fee anywhere from £500 to £1000, or see a NHS doctor, but the waiting list depending on your doctors can be years.
 
GibbosEmpire said:
There is some questionnaires you can take online, which can give you a good idea, but on the whole you need to talk to a doctor, which can be done privately for a fee anywhere from £500 to £1000, or see a NHS doctor, but the waiting list depending on your doctors can be years.
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Thank you !
 
GibbosEmpire said:
My girlfriend noticed it first, she'll be talking to me and my eyes wander and I couldn't focus at all, when I was at school I'd always leave work to the last minute, id be doing homrwork at 4am.
In my room I have a closet, which is jam-packed full of stuff, none of it organised just thrown in for later when I have to do it. I'm extremely forgetful, lost a camera, pair of headphones, my passport just to name a few things because I've left them on buses or trains. My organisation skills are appalling.
My friends or family would say I'm so careless, to the point its like I have no empathy with anyone. Tend to start new tasks without finishing previous ones.
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Daughter has every one of those.
GibbosEmpire said:
There is some questionnaires you can take online, which can give you a good idea, but on the whole you need to talk to a doctor, which can be done privately for a fee anywhere from £500 to £1000, or see a NHS doctor, but the waiting list depending on your doctors can be years.
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Yeah, our friends daughter paid private to be diagnosed and it was £1k. Daughter is on the waiting list.......2 years. So we just have to try to muddle through it, and at times it's a complete f*cking nightmare.

Hope you manage to get things "under control" 👍
 
The_Lizards_Jumpers said:
Thanks for the honesty, and I recognise a number of those traits in myself although I'm not that forgetful and I can be amazing at organising if I've got the desire at that particular time.

Did you just got to the doctors and say you thought you had ADHD ?

Apologies for all the questions.
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I worked with students who had ADHD and I feel some of us (not all) may have some traits of it in us but have learned to cope with it throughout our lives.

Myself, I am the opposite of what is described above, I am super organised and cannot be late for anything. If I start a job it's got to be completed to the best of my ability or I will start again. I started woodturning some years back and will spend hours sanding any imperfections in the wood out. Yet when I am working in my workshop I end up with tools everywhere and have to stop and tidy them away before I can continue.

I do struggle to pay attention to other people, I find myself drifting off and due to this I really struggled in school. I have a terrible temper that I've learned to control and was mainly triggered when I couldn't explain myself. I cannot sit still for long and have always got to be on the go. Last night, my son came round to see us and whilst we were sat in the garden talking I got up and started weeding the borders. He was in midsentence talking to me but I had spotted a weed and couldn't settle until I had pulled it out.

Later in life, I went back to college and university and really had to work hard to concentrate to qualify as a counsellor. Often I would find myself drifting off into my own little world and would lose the thread of what was going on around me.

I wouldn't say I have ADHD but my wife always says that these days if I was at school I would be on the spectrum.

Having worked with students with ADHD, I feel for anyone who does have it no matter what their age is.
 
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My girlfriend noticed it first, she'll be talking to me and my eyes wander and I couldn't focus at all, when I was at school I'd always leave work to the last minute, id be doing homrwork at 4am.
In my room I have a closet, which is jam-packed full of stuff, none of it organised just thrown in for later when I have to do it. I'm extremely forgetful, lost a camera, pair of headphones, my passport just to name a few things because I've left them on buses or trains. My organisation skills are appalling.
My friends or family would say I'm so careless, to the point its like I have no empathy with anyone. Tend to start new tasks without finishing previous ones.
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Anytime you want - just post on here. Feel free. There`s a lot of caring people on here - sometimes knowing someone cares and has similar or the same experiences can be helpful.(y)
 
Thanks for sharing. It's been a really interesting read for me, personally. My girlfriend and I are pretty sure she has it and she's currently on the waiting list for diagnosis which was at 5 years, a couple of months ago.

She currently takes medication which may be similar to what people with ADHD are prescribed but an actual diagnosis would give us a much better understanding.

When she has enquired about going private, she has been told that the NHS probably wouldn't recognise a private diagnosis so there's no real point.

Does anybody have experience of going private and if it was a valuable route to go down?
 
My partner has it, she either hyperfocussed on a tàsk or bored of it. Hence house can be a mrss as she fin it boring and hard to start tasks but once she get going no stopping her
 
My boss has it, just been diagnosed at late 30s. She was quite upset about it.
She's hyper clever and hyper driven, at times and at other time she's the worst putterofferer I've ever seen and we can get nowt done.
Not good for me but nothing compared to what she has to put up with.
 
A really good and honest thread. I'm waiting for a diagnosis consultation next month. I spoke to my GP after I read up on it and found myself recognising a lot of the issues. I've since looked back at my school reports and it seems almost classic...has the ability but suffers from lack of attention and application. My mum mentioned something the other day about my behaviour as a young child which resonated too. In adult life I've struggled to hold down long-term jobs and look after my own health. When I'm focused, I'm really focused and can do stuff quickly, when I'm not, I just zone out and can't pay attention. We'll see what it comes back with.

One thing people say is, "we're all forgetful or lacking focus", but then we all pee as well, just not all the time.
 
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