ADHD in adults

Boroshirtmuseum said:
Update since my last post in September.

Last week I wore my very expensive headphones to walk to the pub to listen to a podcast on the way.
made a point to not lose them…. Within the hour they had gone. Didn’t realise until 2 days later 😂

So now I’ve stopped myself from
Taking anything valuable out. I cannot trust myself!

It’s a nightmare but I’m learning all of the time, now I know it can’t be helped.
It certainly takes the pressure off beating yourself up about things.
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Good news.
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Slipperutb01 said:
I feel your pain my 20yr old son is definitely on the spectrum but we were told could be up to3yrs for diagnosis just gotta help them as best we can however hard it is
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You can ask for "Right to choose", I got told the NHS have paid a lot of money to have this company fastrack you. I didn't even ask and she put me through it, took 3 months. They've been great.
 
Boroshirtmuseum said:
Update since my last post in September.

Last week I wore my very expensive headphones to walk to the pub to listen to a podcast on the way.
made a point to not lose them…. Within the hour they had gone. Didn’t realise until 2 days later 😂

So now I’ve stopped myself from
Taking anything valuable out. I cannot trust myself!

It’s a nightmare but I’m learning all of the time, now I know it can’t be helped.
It certainly takes the pressure off beating yourself up about things.
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It’s wonderful what you learn.
I’ve got two lads (eldest diagnosed with Asperger’s as a young in and ADHD in his 30’s.
The other one is wired differently.

I’ll send a message ..
Youngest will reply almost straight away
The eldest, if he doesn’t then that’s it - no chance of him replying.

In another world - ‘what an ignorant git’ …..
But, it isn’t
 
Started listening to a podcast called ADHD Chatter, it's done by the same guy who started Ladbible and Unilad, it's really informative, some from people's experiences, from Doctors, from celebrities, about parents who have kids with adhd etc.
 
Norman_Conquest said:
I worked with students who had ADHD and I feel some of us (not all) may have some traits of it in us but have learned to cope with it throughout our lives.

Myself, I am the opposite of what is described above, I am super organised and cannot be late for anything. If I start a job it's got to be completed to the best of my ability or I will start again. I started woodturning some years back and will spend hours sanding any imperfections in the wood out. Yet when I am working in my workshop I end up with tools everywhere and have to stop and tidy them away before I can continue.

I do struggle to pay attention to other people, I find myself drifting off and due to this I really struggled in school. I have a terrible temper that I've learned to control and was mainly triggered when I couldn't explain myself. I cannot sit still for long and have always got to be on the go. Last night, my son came round to see us and whilst we were sat in the garden talking I got up and started weeding the borders. He was in midsentence talking to me but I had spotted a weed and couldn't settle until I had pulled it out.

Later in life, I went back to college and university and really had to work hard to concentrate to qualify as a counsellor. Often I would find myself drifting off into my own little world and would lose the thread of what was going on around me.

I wouldn't say I have ADHD but my wife always says that these days if I was at school I would be on the spectrum.

Having worked with students with ADHD, I feel for anyone who does have it no matter what their age is.
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You have what's commonly known as OCD. :oops:
 
GibbosEmpire said:
Started listening to a podcast called ADHD Chatter, it's done by the same guy who started Ladbible and Unilad, it's really informative, some from people's experiences, from Doctors, from celebrities, about parents who have kids with adhd etc.
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Was talking to my niece the other night - she has tons of training in all forms of neuro divergence.
She talked about ‘compartmentalisation’.

My lad (33 ADHD) rarely answers watts app. Although we got used to it my partner and I would always chat and wonder why he just wouldn’t respond straight away.
It’s simple - in his world he is focussed on something else and it wouldn’t occur to him to interrupt what he was doing.
Apparently it can be quite problematic with friendships as they expect their kind of behaviour and his kind of behaviour can appear rude and be perceived as not caring.

All really helpful
 
1finny said:
Was talking to my niece the other night - she has tons of training in all forms of neuro divergence.
She talked about ‘compartmentalisation’.

My lad (33 ADHD) rarely answers watts app. Although we got used to it my partner and I would always chat and wonder why he just wouldn’t respond straight away.
It’s simple - in his world he is focussed on something else and it wouldn’t occur to him to interrupt what he was doing.
Apparently it can be quite problematic with friendships as they expect their kind of behaviour and his kind of behaviour can appear rude and be perceived as not caring.

All really helpful
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It's also a sense of rejection, I have mates I've been friends with for 12 years, haven't heard from them in a few years because they won't message me first as I did before and got messages back that just sounded like they didn't care, so I'm stubborn and wont message as feel rejected by them.
 
1finny said:
Was talking to my niece the other night - she has tons of training in all forms of neuro divergence.
She talked about ‘compartmentalisation’.

My lad (33 ADHD) rarely answers watts app. Although we got used to it my partner and I would always chat and wonder why he just wouldn’t respond straight away.
It’s simple - in his world he is focussed on something else and it wouldn’t occur to him to interrupt what he was doing.
Apparently it can be quite problematic with friendships as they expect their kind of behaviour and his kind of behaviour can appear rude and be perceived as not caring.

All really helpful
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I have seen that a lot when talking to students and you know they have heard you but don't answer. As you say, unless you understand what is going on for them, they can seem rude, ignorant and defiant.

I worked with a student and if people raised their voices at him he would laugh, and the more they shouted the more he would laugh. The Headteacher tried to speak with him, wasn't happy with his response and raised his voice. This lad went into his defence mode of laughing and the Head raised his voice more. I tried to intervene and explain what was happening and I got a bollocking off the Head. I went back to see the Head later in the day and explained what the situation.
 
Great thread this, can't believe I missed it first time round!

I'm another with ADHD and Autism (Asperger's). Thankfully, my mam and dad really pushed for me and I was diagnosed early, maybe around 6 or 7 (I'm 35 now), so I've known loads about it basically all of my life. I was on medication throughout school and into early adult life, stopped taking it around 20, recently went back on it about a year or so ago, but still to find the right medication which has helped. At the point now where I'm questioning if I want to be back on it. I've found the stimulant medication causes ridiculous anxiety.

Agree with a few posts I've read regarding people on LinkedIn/other social medias almost glamourising ADHD as a 'superpower' etc. I've found it anything but, really! My concentration levels have always been absolutely shocking unless it's something I'm obsessed with (so, football), I've been nicknamed Arthur (short for Arthur/half a job :ROFLMAO: ) for so long as I'm absolutely full of great ideas, but basically never see anything through. Personal life I'm a nightmare really, terrible at replying to texts/WhatsApps, about as indecisive as they come to the point of being angry with myself that I can't make a decision, a perfectionist in a lot of ways (again, to the point of frustration) but also pretty careless in a lot of other ways. I've had good jobs (and in one now) but they all follow a similar pattern - new, exciting job bounce for a period, get to grips with stuff, excel for a period, but then 18 months/2 years in, I'll find myself getting bored, procrastinating loads etc, and want something new.

I could talk about ADHD all day. Get really annoyed when people trot out the 'ah, everyone's got a bit of ADHD in them though haven't they'. Find it really trivialises something that has such an effect on those who have it.
 
GibbosEmpire said:
It's also a sense of rejection, I have mates I've been friends with for 12 years, haven't heard from them in a few years because they won't message me first as I did before and got messages back that just sounded like they didn't care, so I'm stubborn and wont message as feel rejected by them.
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I've lost touch with countless people over the years as I never send the first message and if I do get a message it takes me about a day to process it and get over the annoyance of being contacted. It sounds ridiculous but I hate people contacting me and far prefer it if things are arranged via my wife.
 
That podcast actually talks about adhd being called a superpower very unhelpful, as it doesn't take into account the negatives of adhd. I'm very careful about information I get now regarding it, as it seems to of been glamorised by Instagram and tik tok.
 
Norman_Conquest said:
You better believe it. 🤣 🤣 🤣

There is a stain (it is a tiny drop) on the coffee table I made the wife and it is killing me not to take it back in the garage and strip it back to the bare wood and stain it all again. You can't notice it but I know it is there.
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I love finding tradesmen who have OCD….always deliver the best results by far 🤣👌😊
 
I have a problem with people's names. I basically don't pay attention when people introduce themselves. Then it becomes too embarrassing as I've known them for too long to ask their name. I once lived in a house for about 18 months with a bloke who's name I didn't know.
 
Recently started a security job with tesco and I'm already quitting, pays pretty well but I'm standing on one spot for 8 hours and it's so F***ing boring, 2 hours into my shift I'm already yawning, absolutely zero stimulation and ill have 5 coffees to keep me awake.
 
Sheriff_John_Bunnell_ret said:
I have a problem with people's names. I basically don't pay attention when people introduce themselves. Then it becomes too embarrassing as I've known them for too long to ask their name. I once lived in a house for about 18 months with a bloke who's name I didn't know.
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I'm absolutely terrible for this too. The older I get, the worse I get. I'll be hiding my own Easter eggs soon.
 
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