Life really is Bittersweet!!

What would she benefit in knowing? This way she has made history and be able to dedicate it to her father's memory.
 
Each to their own, We spend a lot of time abroad and we made sure thar our family were under no doubt that whatever we had to know. We had to trust them. Never wanted to get back to the UK to a reception committee at arrivals.

But if others choose different then that is for them. I wasn’t two days from playing in a World Cup final when it happened to me so ……..
 
SilentProf said:
It was a family decision apparently. It may have been discussed before she left or her father might have instructed them not to tell her. It will be painful but that would be the case anyway.
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I think in the same situation my family would do the same. And my Dad would certainly have wanted me to be part of the World Cup winning team. I think in years to come she'll be glad the way it panned out rather than being told and not being as focussed.
 
That is literally others putting football first, it was not for anyone to make that decision for her. It is purely personal, but I think I would walk away from football if that had ever happened to me, I’d be so angry.

R.I.P
 
GibbosEmpire said:
I'd be so F***ing angry if that happened to me, heads would roll.
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Why, honestly what benefit do you get from knowing.

If he was terminally ill she will have said her goodbye’s before she flew out to Australia. Nothing prepares or prevents the pain of losing a parent but there is no benefit in knowing before such an important event.
 
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Norman_Conquest said:
Why, honestly what benefit do you get from knowing.

If he was terminally ill she will have said her goodbye’s before she flew out to Australia. Nothing prepares or prevents the pain of losing a parent but there is no benefit in knowing before such an important event.
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I guess that is your view that there is no benefit, but everyone is different as said above

For me now it’s been said it was a family decision I don’t have any problem with it or shocked

They are plenty of examples of sports people performing at high standards following a family tragedy. People are galvanised into performing in memory of the deceased
 
ForssAwakens said:
I guess that is your view that there is no benefit, but everyone is different as said above

For me now it’s been said it was a family decision I don’t have any problem with it or shocked

They are plenty of examples of sports people performing at high standards following a family tragedy. People are galvanised into performing in memory of the deceased
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So if you have no problem with it being withheld from her due to it being a family decision, then you are agreeing with what I’ve written. Her family obviously thought there was no benefit in her knowing.

My best mates mother passed away on the afternoon prior to him playing in the Ellis Cup Final. He played in the final and had a very good game. He asked permission from his brother and sisters to allow him to play and he came away with a winner’s medal.

At the time the Ellis Cup was a huge tournament in Middlesbrough with games played at South Bank United’s ground and attracted all the top amateur players and ex-pros. The final would attract well over a thousand spectators.

He still questions whether he should have played and if he was disrespectful to his mum.
 
Norman_Conquest said:
So if you have no problem with it being withheld from her due to it being a family decision, then you are agreeing with what I’ve written. Her family obviously thought there was no benefit in her knowing.

My best mates mother passed away on the afternoon prior to him playing in the Ellis Cup Final. He played in the final and had a very good game. He asked permission from his brother and sisters to allow him to play and he came away with a winner’s medal.

At the time the Ellis Cup was a huge tournament in Middlesbrough with games played at South Bank United’s ground and attracted all the top amateur players and ex-pros. The final would attract well over a thousand spectators.

He still questions whether he should have played and if he was disrespectful to his mum.
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I’m not agree because your statement was encompassing every situation as you said there was no benefit, for some people there could be

Most people who play after tragedy tend to say ‘they would have wanted it this way’

I think after reflecting on this, it’s not for the likes
Of us to see they should or should not find out.

I would want to know, you wouldn’t and both are fine
 
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