QUIT YOUR JOB

You're right it isn't easy. But if you just put your head down and deny that you're struggling eventually you will break. I don't think you should interpret this as just walk in one day and say fkkit and walk straight out again. But that you should acknowledge that you are not happy and that you need to start looking for a change of career/job. It might take you a few months or longer but if you don't start the process you will end up with you broken or a broken relationship.

Wise words, a change of career is more likely to be a long term change than a spontaneous decision.

Telling your boss to shove it is probably the last thing anyone needs to do in the current climate but taking steps to change your career can be a huge boost for your morale.
 
I sort of did it 15 years ago. Realised I was sick of the corporate world, and became basically unemployable with my attitude. Set up as self-employed, cut all my costs to bare minimum, try & live a frugal life - dont earn a lot, dont spend a lot. Has it made me ecstatically happy? No. Could I go back to a proper job? Never in a million years. For me it was a step closer to living more authentically to what I believe, which I realise is a sort of hippy pipedream and not really possible in todays society. But I feel much better for being a little bit closer to it.
 
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'The Prince of Woke'?

The sort of thing you'd read in the Daily Mail.

All quite unnecessary really.
For someone who doesn't want media intrusion, He sure likes to preach and tell us about his world. The guy had all the educational opportunities, and still managed to come out with absolute crap qualifications, so why does He think, He is an expert on all matters, from environmentalism, mental health, to life coach. If I need advice on personal growth or mental health I will seek professional guidance not listen to waffle from a pandered prince. There is a definite movement started in LA, for wealthy celebrities to educate sorry patronise the masses about how to improve ones life, which is out so far out of touch of reality it stinks.
 
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For someone who doesn't want media intrusion, He sure likes to preach and tell us about his world. The guy had all the educational opportunities, and still managed to come out with absolute crap qualifications, so why does He think, He is an expert on all matters, from environmentalism, mental health, to life coach. If I need advice on personal growth or mental health I will seek professional guidance not listen to waffle from a pandered prince. There is a definite movement started in LA, for wealthy celebrities to educate sorry patronise the masses about how to improve ones life, which is out so far out of touch of reality it stinks.

He's pontificating upon life just as we all do.

The only difference is that his words are reported, whereas ours aren't.

It's you who chooses to read them. You don't have to.
 
He's pontificating upon life just as we all do.

The only difference is that his words are reported, whereas ours aren't.

It's you who chooses to read them. You don't have to.

Also the word "intrusion" is key here.

He has never (as far as I'm aware) said he want's to divorce from the media completely, but instead he wants to try and manage what appears in the media on his own terms - which is fair enough (if probably unlikely).
 
I've done it this year. Was working for a property maintenance company - people will always need work doing - but hated it. If it wasn't the house owners or tenants or letting/estate agents lying to us, then it was the engineers that we'd sent in to do the work.

I've gone back to my old industry that was decimated by Covid, in the hope that I can catch an upturn in that business as we get to whatever the new norm is. My probation period here is up tomorrow hopefully.
 
I'd love to quit my job, as I really dislike it, and get next to no satisfaction from it.

However I am hamstrung by two key factors:-

1) I haven't a clue what I'd do instead, even to fill my time let alone a new career
2) I like the lifestyle my job allows, and think I'd struggle with adjusting to something different
 
I'd love to quit my job, as I really dislike it, and get next to no satisfaction from it.

However I am hamstrung by two key factors:-

1) I haven't a clue what I'd do instead, even to fill my time let alone a new career
2) I like the lifestyle my job allows, and think I'd struggle with adjusting to something different

I think this is likely to be the case for many of us!
 
A good decade ago I quit one job (wasn't particularly unhappy with it mind) to go to another (same job effectively, just abroad and less tax), and then before I went to the other an even better opportunity arose, and that opportunity has compounded since.

For an average earner, if people can build up 3 months earnings, as savings (or even re-mortgage to free up some cash), then this will really help enable people to take more opportunities, which may only appear at last minute. Even 3 months of costs covered, for absolute bare necessities could do it. Those bare necessities to be wouldn't include boozing, Sky TV, Holidays, fancy clothes etc, put those on hold for the short term.

There's a big opportunity cost, in not being prepared financially, or in not being willing to relocate etc.

Obviously some people can't afford a house/ deposit, and have little chance of saving up three months earnings, so they get doubly punished by not being able to take other opportunities as easily. The same as if you have money, it's much, much easier to get a better return on what you do have, as you have a lot more flexibility.

I read somewhere once that if you earn 30k, you should expect to have to wait 3 months to get a new job which is better than your current one. If you earn 100k, then that might be 10 months etc. I don't expect those timescales are as long at the minute, but I supposed it depends on the industry and role.
 
He's pontificating upon life just as we all do.

The only difference is that his words are reported, whereas ours aren't.
The only differences are he doesnt need to work, can take off as much time he wants, and as many career changes he likes from his pedestal of privilege. The guy is as thick as a brick to boot.
 
As someone due offshore for Christmas tomorrow I really wish I had the **** to do this but with two kids at uni and a mortgage to pay for I’ll just have to struggle on. Sometimes I wish I’d stuck in at school 🤣
 
The only differences are he doesnt need to work, can take off as much time he wants, and as many career changes he likes from his pedestal of privilege. The guy is as thick as a brick to boot.

He is incredibly privileged yes, but thick as a brick?

Thick people don't fly rescue helicopters.
 
I made the eventual plunge - I was more afraid of not having done so in this very short time on Earth rather than the ramifications of no money - suffice to say, it was a lot of hard work for little return in the beginning, slowly things came together.
Was about to go to next level, when the coof hit.
I was just scraping by - when my leg decided to try and kill me ( old 1984 Hit and run thing).

So...........I refuse to get depressed, and have pivoted into something I can do with one leg ( quite a lot as it happens - they haven't cut it off just yet).
One suspects another long haul
 
If someone is very stressed out in their job they should leave. Stress can come from many aspects of the work, such as poor relationships with managers and work colleagues not just directly the job itself. High levels of stress over time will damage your health and make your whole life very difficult. I have walked away from one job for this reason. I was lucky I could find a professional job within 2 months, so didn't suffer financially.

The more common situation is people don't like their job, but need it for the money and status and possibly social interactions/friendships. If they won a £1m plus they would give it up.

There are people working full time in their 60s who could have retired if they have saved more and saved more wisely when younger, realistically these are the people who could have quit. The strategy was pay off your mortgage after 25 years or less, certainly before you are 60, put 30 years into a pension scheme in the past occupational, now a SIPP - 8% of salary in gives a fund of about £190k on £27k a year. At 60 retire and take out £10k a year (5.25% net return is very possible) plus a bit of part time work, say up to tax allowance of £12.8k. With no mortgage and live modestly its possible to get by on £12.8k. At 66 state pension kicks in which is around £9.2k. Drop part time work. Longer term income is around £19.2k/year. Not enough for a lavish lifestyle, but your life is own while you have your health. Kids are a financial drain, but these figures are possible for someone in a say £27k/year job from age 30 to 60 with partner working too. Obviously not everyone can do this, there is illnesses (before 60), older relatives to look after, but sometimes people are too rash when younger and it restricts their freedom/options in later life.

Quiting mid career is a different scenario of course. After 9 years doing one type of job I decided to change track. I decided I was better suited to another type of job and it was the correct decision. I found having an in depth pychometric test useful. Sometimes we are not the best at analysing ourselves.
 
I completely changed career 20 years ago and it was the best thing I did. About 8 years ago though I wanted to leave my currrent job, stress high and very unhappy. I even stood outside the office with the resignation letter in my hand and in the end decided not to. This was also the best choice as things turned around after that.
 
I don't think he is that well qualified to dole out such advice. Perhaps maybe to folk of his ilk though, like the guild of ostracised princes and overpriviliged gobschites.
 
I agree with all the sentiments regarding stress and keeping your mind in place. Therefore if you have some security and can afford to leave and maybe survive for a few months on savings then you should walk. I’ve always been positive about walking when you know you’re being swallowed by the swamp and there’s no way out. There’s no better feeling than walking out — resigning is better than being fired or losing your marbles on the job. Remember there will always be tomorrow, another opportunity, another chance to prove yourself and at the same time rebuild your life and things that are important.
 
I think that when you are young, you can roll with it, retrain, do something else etc but as you reach a certain age, although you may be in a better place financially, finding a new job in your trained field is nigh on impossible. Employers just don't want you.

Ageism is a big problem.
 
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